Five Common Tactics Used to Deny a Father the Right to his Children

When divorce or custody issues get heated, there are a number of tactics used to deny fathers their right to custody or visitation with his children. These common strategies can be effective if you’re not aware of them or are not prepared to fight them.

Allegations of Domestic Violence

Unfortunately, this is a proven technique for keeping separated, divorced or divorcing fathers away from their children. The allegations may be made by your wife/ex-wife, or kids may be coaxed into participating, perhaps by exaggerating a non-abuse issue until it sounds like domestic violence.

Some recent studies indicate that up to 80% of domestic violence claims against men are false or significantly exaggerated. In fact, as far back as 2007, Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting (RADAR) spokesman, Ron Gignol, reported that, “False allegations of domestic violence have become so widespread that lawyers now call them a legal ‘slam-dunk. ‘”

Allegations of Sexual Abuse

If there’s anything more damaging than false allegations of physical violence, it would be false accusations of sexual abuse. A mother intent on denying you your rights, coupled with an over-zealous school counselor or child protective service worker, may attempt to turn normal interaction with your child into a sexual assault. Bathing or dressing your children, hugging them or having them sit on your lap, and other normal behaviors often form the basis for these false accusations.

Personal Protection Orders

A temporary or permanent restraining order against you will make it more difficult to see your children and spend meaningful, unsupervised time with them. There’s a snowball effect too. The personal protection order, or PPO, may be seen as a black mark against you in the custody proceedings, with the result that you’re denied joint custody, visitation rights or other rights.

Motion to Suspend Visitation

This is a legal maneuver that will require specific reasons for the termination of your visitation rights. In many instances, the reasons given contain falsehoods like those already addressed.

Moving Away with the Children

There are times when mothers will move with the children to a distance that makes it hard for fathers to see them. Even if the parental rights of the father are not denied, they are effectively violated when the father’s work or the expense of travel make it difficult or impossible to spend significant time with his children.

Responding to these Tactics

Knowing how to respond when your rights to be with your children are threatened or denied is essential. Often, a good offense, fighting proactively for your rights,  is part of a sound defense. If your rights are being threatened or have been revoked, see an attorney with significant experience in preserving and protecting the rights of fathers to be integrally involved in the lives of their children.