5 Things You Can’t Do If You Have Joint Physical Custody

Joint custody is a complex situation filled with plenty of regulations. There are quite a few things you cannot do that are part of most state laws if you have joint custody. Here are things you can’t do and make a joint custody arrangement work.

In this Divorced Fathers Rights Guide we will discuss things that you shouldn’t do if you have joint custody of your children.

1. Move Far Away

In most court decrees in which joint custody is awarded, the decree will stipulate how far either parent is allowed to move away from the other one. The purpose, of course, is to make it as easy as possible for the children to be with each parent for the allotted time.

2. Make Key Decisions on your Own

Big decisions that relate to your child or children must be made jointly with your ex-spouse, and if you cannot agree, you’ll wind up back in court. Decisions about where the child will attend school, for example, must be agreed upon together. If one of you wants public school and the other wants private school, a solution will have to be negotiated, even if through legal help,  that is in the best interest of the child. If the child is injured or ill and there are difficult decisions to make, both parents have a right to be involved.

3. Consistently Give Up Your Time with the Kids

If you have joint custody of the kids, you have the responsibility to fulfill your obligations to them as well as to your ex-spouse. If you consistently give up your time, for whatever reason, the other parent might use it to argue that the terms of custody changed to give them primary custody.

4. Be Uncooperative in Keeping the Custody Schedule

If you make it difficult for the other parent to get their time with the kids, or try to bring up other custody issues , the court might change the custody decree. For example, always delaying the exchange of the kids, harassing the other parent to get them back sooner than scheduled and other uncooperative behaviors will not be tolerated by the court.

5. Threaten or Abuse the Children or Other Parent

If there is verbal abuse or allegations of physical abuse, these can be cause to terminate joint custody.

You don’t have to be a perfect parent, but strive to be a good parent who acts in the kids’ best interest. Be cooperative with the other parent. Be a good example of adults working together. These are the things that will benefit the children and allow the joint custody arrangement to work smoothly.